sarcasm always wins out in the end

Certainly she is entitled to make that choice, just as I am entitled to think less of her for doing so. ;) But seriously, I think there is a difference between asking women to participate in an inherently sexist tradition that devalues the concept of female identity, and asking them not to do that. That said, I wouldn't try to dictate her choice (or any other woman's), what she chooses to call herself is her business. I'm objecting to her claim that changing your name is something women should do and part of a great tradition.