sarcasm always wins out in the end

I agree with this post. To me, it's more important that women have the choice, not that they're expected to do one or the other. If we expect all women to -not- change their names, that's just as bad as expecting them -to- change their names. Either way is forcing a woman to do what society expects her to do. Giving her the freedom to choose, however - that is a real goal.