let's talk about sex

[wildestranger]

I've been thinking a lot about sex lately. Writing of it, that is, and since I am having Trouble With Writing I thought I'd ask you.

We all know there are certain scenarios we like to read about, certain acts well expressed that work better than others, but what I'm interested in is how to play this with characterisation. Particularly in relation to Remus and Sirius. What kind of preferences do you think they have? I don't mean just things like Remus being alpha, whatever that means, but what do you think they like to do, and why? Does Sirius like to be tied up because as an aristocrat he is a kinky bugger? Because giving up control allows him to feel less fucked up? Does Remus like to do the buggering because he can't handle not being in control? And if so, what happens when he loses control?

Obiously we all have different Remuses and different Siriuses in our heads, maybe several different kinds, but what I want to know is how does the (or any) Remus and/or Sirius in your head behave in bed, and why?

My Remus likes to be in control, not only of what happens but also how much he shows of what he's feeling. He is anxious about making noises, or uncontrollable movements. He dreads losing control. Because he cannot control what happens to his body as a werewolf, because he has no mind in those moments and can't remember it later, he tries to ensure that this doesn't happen otherwise. But the threat of losing control is also something that fills him with adrenaline, and creates intense situations. And there is a certain temptation also to let go, to allow someone else do things to him, to not be in control of his reactions.

I see Remus as someone who doesn't touch people easily or naturally, but who, being aware of this, has taught himself to touch others, in sex and otherwise, to avoid being t unprepared and potentially humiliated in such moments. He has learned skills in bed because he thinks he should know these things, not merely as a by-product of fun and frolics. This allows him to maintain a cool persona, of someone who is unaffected by others. his skills are dependent on his sense of self.

Sirius, on the other hand, finds it easy to touch others, to seduce and be seduced, and he has learned what to do without conscious effort. Sirius is not as affected by being touched as Remus is, and is as happy to top as to bottom, it's all fun and his ego is not that involved.

Hmm. Clearly I have more to say about Remus' sex life than Sirius'. I'll just have to think more about it, then. *g*

All this so far is what I'm thinking they were like before Azkaban. After that, there are other things to take into consideration: How does Sirius feel about being embraced after living with dementors? What kind of relationships has Remus had in the twelve years, and how does this affect his preferences? What about trust, can either trust the other to take or give control after what happened?

All thoughts welcome. And, you know, porn to illustrate them. *g*

Comments

[coconutswirl.livejournal.com]

*bounces in with her favourite word*

phallologocentric!!!!!!!! It's not quite penis-centric of course but you know Sirius would talk and talk and talk in a phallogocentric manner.

[wildestranger.livejournal.com]

Yes, that's what I was thinking of. Although I would consider him more phallocentric than phallogocentric, more likely to show his focus in other ways than talking. Whereas Remus would be more interested in exploring polymorphous sexualities, rather than merely worship the cock.

*bounces with you in the joy of academic discourse*

[coconutswirl.livejournal.com]

Phallocentric all the way but phallologocentric is more fun to type! Hmm.. I do visualise pre-Azkaban Sirius as rather talkative..

[wildestranger.livejournal.com]

Now I'm having visions of Sirius talking constantly about his cock, and Remus and James and Peter going oh shut up it's not that great and then's he'd try to prove it and...

Ahem. Nevermind. *g*